There are sure signs that your ex is giving off that they want you back. They probably don’t even know that they are giving off these signs, but if you know what to look for you can easily figure out whether you have a chance of getting back together with your ex.
There are four major things that your ex will display if they secretly want you back. These include:
- Showing any emotions towards either you or your actions
- Keeping in contact with you (any contact is good!)
- Subconsciously using push-pull psychology on you.
- Competitiveness… showing you that they are better than you in any situation
As much as your ex is going to hate to admit it they are giving you subtle signs that will tip you off to their real feelings.
Showing Emotion
Emotions are what make us feel alive. If you and your ex were in love than when you break up it stands to reason that they should now hate you right? Wrong! Love and hate are extremely similar emotions as they are both passionate feelings.
If your ex is trying to show you that they ‘hate’ you than what you can gather from that is that they still care about you, but they don’t want to because they’ve been hurt.
The emotion you need to watch out for is indifference. If your ex is showing indifference towards you than it’s going to be an uphill battle getting them back.
Keeping Contact
If your ex is showing any type of emotion to you than it means that they still care about you. Keeping contact is a little tricky to identify as a sign that your ex wants you back simply because as humans we have to interact with people that we dislike every single day.
The type of contact you’re looking for is for your ex to contact you without any motive like work or family. The good thing about this is that the type of contact doesn’t have to be fulfilled either. If you found that your ex phoned you but didn’t leave you a message than that’s an extremely good sign! Just keep in mind that as long as the contact doesn’t have a motive behind it than you can take it as an extremely positive sign.
Using Push-Pull
This is by far one of the easiest to identify and the best indicator that your ex wants you back. Have they been talking and paying attention to you one minute only to give you the cold shoulder the next minute? This is extremely interesting psychological behaviour that is extremely common in ex partners.
Here’s an example of what I mean. After the two of you have broken up your ex tells you they miss you, your wonderful and won’t you “come over”. The next day they want nothing to do with you.
The reason that Push-Pull is so telling is that it means that your ex misses some parts of the relationship. What you can take away if you notice that your ex is using Push-Pull is that there are some things that you need to work on.
Being Competitive
This isn’t the most common behaviour for ex’s to show, but it does happen from time to time. Their competitive behaviour stems from the fact that they need to justify the decision to break up with you. If you notice your ex being competitive than it means that they aren’t sure that the decision to break up was right and they need to justify it somehow.
Here are some examples of competitive behaviour: being overly happy after the breakup, showing you they’re happy with someone else, boasting about how superior they are to you and lastly showing YOU that they’re over you.
These are all classic signs that your ex wants you back and if you notice ANY of them than it means you have more than a fighting chance in getting them back.